Dear Carol: My person is familiar, so there is no house problem but can not repair it. Now that's changed because he had a stroke for a year ago, which most of his ability to use his devices. It disturbs it when it's a n; giving things around our home that need adjustment because he can not do the job. I can live with inequality, but see the face on the face of the face facing the door; behaviors that surrender or write; leaving a deck board skip he wants me to shout. We can work the salary, but he refused to consider it. Is it better to just drop it, hurt it, or whether I should have to go to & # 39; Do things that are at risk are even more injured? – CT.
In CT: I'm so sorry for both of you. We all know that this is how life can work, but that does not accept any fact easier when these losses come to us.
It is essential for your person to take the time to take care of maintaining their health by doing so; Follow the doctors' directors, which may include diet and exercise as well as physical remedies and / or occupation. The extra challenge is to find a new search that is normal for his life and for your friendship; means that his work has already been cut off, but he is absolutely wanting more.
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Your person is used to a traditional place to be a supervisor around the house. Someone who works with his hands is that even seeing his ability to use his tools to build and repair items around your home as a big blow to his refreshment and self spouse. You may be able to understand help, although his organization can not work as well, he has not lost access to what he has learned through his knowledge.
The moment is now the time to move from a daily place to your home repair, and perhaps a similar role with directors. Since you said that you could pay for home repairs and improvements to be held by others, do a list together with what needs to be settled now and what types Improvements that you want to keep your home safe and it will be comfortable for both of you well into the years later. It could then start to build a team of people who can hire them to do some of his projects. If he is able to take his new role as legitimate and important, he can also accept his new normal way.
People with stroke are at great risk of depression, so your person prompts you to help an adviser if his / her vision does not evolve over time. Also, consider a support organization that is increasingly blow. Peers who understand what your person can do is offer great partnership, as well as practical ideas.
Carol Bradley Bursack is an established caretaker and column accountant. She is also a blogger, and the author "Minding Our Elders: Caregivers Discloses Personal Stories." The Bradley website maintains a website that's a Supporting carers and grandparents at www.mindingourelders.com. Can be reached at [email protected]